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Originally I made this blog to communicate with with my friends I made with in London . I arrived in London at 14th April 2005 and this is my start studying here. I like computer staff and would like to develop knowledge in that field . I am getting some knowledge from my friends who are so much in that field. So I would like to try what I get and put them on this blog which is useful and understandable for non computer expert person besides my personal diary.

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Friday, June 18, 2010

My sister

My sister and I have had a quite difficult relationship for really long time.
We are so different by nature and think quite differently.
She is quite shay and laid back. I am quite outgoing and love to go out and meet people.
She can enjoy staying home even for a year without getting out at all. I can not stay home more than two days I need to get out to breath the outer air.
For long time, she was mean to me every single minutes. That was quite tough thing for me.
Since I felt I had burden every single minutes and I could expect something negative happen every single minute.
I had had really hard years because of her and I continue to get hurt for many years. Every day, I used to kind of wish she would different today! and betrayed again and again. I thought I should not gave up on her and keep the wish.
My parents did not know what to do about this and they just left this problem. My parents did not do anything at all about this. That was hard things to me since it give me the idea that my family do not care about my problem and pain at all who I can expect the care.
So I got hurt double like this.
After she married, she stopped being mean to me since we did not have chance to communicate much. However I can not just forgot what I had such long years and just trust her immediately. She was the person who hurt me such a long years and she does not care about my feeling. I thought that way. So I thought without her apology or something, I can not just built trust on her and I thought she need to work to earn some trust and forgiveness from me.
Should I just give up on her ?
I was thinking such a long years.
Now, I have some idea about her. Why she was so mean to me in that hard way? I really thought about that hard.
Before because of my pain and anger, I could not think about that . I just thought whatever the reason it was so bad of her to be bad to me since i am so nice to her and we are sisters and only sisters in the world.
So I could not really think why she was like that .
However now I think she was having really hard time. My family have other problem and my parents often payed much attention to me since I am so social and talked a lot and bring many people to house. Because of me, she must felt she was left behind. and that was extremely tough thing and she really needed someone who can express love to her.
I started to feel really sorry for her pain.

And I decided to speak to her properly what I think. I wrote to her I am not angry with her anymore and I do not need her apology since I really understand she herself had hard time.
She is quite laid back and have not meet many people in her life. I walk around the world and have met many amazing people and speak to me properly.
So I decided to share my world as much as possible with her.
Before i never take her to my friend place since I thought it would be really embarrassing and not enjoyable to have a sister to be mean in front of my friends.
Now I think I can take her wherever I go. Since she married with two year old daughter, I do not think she can go out much.

So, my sister and I just started to have human relationship.
I recently took her to see my Australian friend ! I invited and she came.
Nice happy ending story, isn't it?!

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